Of course I've experienced that special bond personally with my own sisters (I have 3), but until yesterday, I don't think I fully saw the depth it had developed into between my own two girls.
It happened like this ...
The girls were looking for something to tie them over until supper was ready, and Dave mentioned Freezies. Hailey was helping him get them from the freezer atop the fridge, and Alissa was acting like her silly self and crawling along the floor right behind them, waiting for her chosen colour/flavour. Dave stepped back to close the freezer door and apparently stepped on Alissa's thumb, but didn't realize it. Poor baby ran crying into the livingroom, cradling her thumb in her other hand. Dave handled the situation while I continued cooking, trying desperatly not to let the boiling pasta water boil over. When he had her all settled down, she came to me to show me her owie, and that's when I discovered the pad part of her thumb (where the bottom joints into the rest of the hand) was quite swollen and to the light touch, it felt like it may even be out of joint. I dropped everything and was going to take her up to the ER, and ran upstairs to tell Hailey (who was playing with her friend in her bedroom) that I was leaving and she and her friend would stay with Daddy and have supper after he finished making it. She melted into a puddle of tears. I tried consoling her, knowing I should get Alissa to the ER too .. but not wanting to bypass Hailey's feelings either. It boiled down to how sad she felt that her sister was hurt enough that we needed to take her to the hospital. Now you have to know that Hailey's had her share of ER visits, with sudden asthma attacks in the night, to breaking her collar bone last fall .. so to her, this is a place where she connects fear and uncertainty. I have to admit that I shed a tear or two as well, trying to tell her things would be alright, and the worst case scenario would be that Alissa would have to wear a splint or cast. So after having spent minutes consoling Hailey .. in the meantime Dave had managed to get Alissa to move her thumb in many directions, and it seems that it's fine .. nothing broken, or sprained, just swollen and with applications of an icepack .. she'd be just fine.
After finishing supper and the dishes, Hailey opted to come with me to drop her friend off at home and go grocery shopping with me. This gave me the opportunity to have a heart to heart with her. She teared up again as we talked about how important her sister is to her, and how sad it made her feel to be helpless in the situation. She even expressed how she would have wished it happen to her rather then Alissa. THAT'S when the tears started again for me. I didn't know whether to cry over the fact that all the little talks of how a sister is your only true best friend, how friends come and go but your sister is in your life forever and how she's let that actually sink in .. or to cry over the fact that my dear little daughter has empathy .. something I have helped her develop and nurture. I explained to her that what she was feeling is exactly what I feel everytime either of them gets hurt physically or emotionally. Her answer? "You must love us so much, Mommy". *more tears*
So as much as I gripe about breaking up fights between the two of them, or how much Dave comments on how he so wishes the girls were more into the sporty/boyish kinda pastimes, we are so very fortunate to have two dear little girls who love eachother and have such a strong bond of sisterhood. I hope I can only nurture that more and when they are adults, they'll benefit from the friendship like I have with my sisters.